YOUR PERSONALITY REALLY MATTERS_IT IS EVERYTHING

 

Greetings! ​ We are still in the third week of 2025! 

We did set off. The plane took off, already. We are on flight.

First things first...

How do you feel right now? Are you okay? Are your people okay? Is everything around you okay? If all is fine, thank and trust God more. If all is NOT that fine, pray and trust God to carry you through it all. All that I need is for you to be fine each day.

The year seems to be running fast already. We are drawing to the end of January. Have you noticed? We don't have any time to regret or focus on the past negativities. We can focus more on the positives but even then, those shouldn't take too much of your time because there is more positive vibe to build and grow. 

Your personality and character will assist in moving you in the positive direction. Whatever we have been, whatever we are and whatever we will be wholly depends on our personality and character. Be grateful if your personality and character checklist or test places you at above 50%. Better if it is above 80%. This applies to people who are appreciated for good behavior and for always being respectfully open-minded.

Cambridge dictionary defines personality as the type of person you are, shown by the way you behave, feel and think. It could also mean the combination of characteristics or qualities that form an individual's distinctive character.

Character refers to the person's moral and ethical qualities. It consists of beliefs and moral principles that can guide their behavior in discrete ways. Personality is the sum of a person's physical, psychological, emotional, and social aspects that are manifested through behavior and actions Character can shape personality, but personality also influences character.

The difference between character and personality is that character refers to our individual beliefs and values; both of which shape our personalities. Our life experiences also shape our character and reveal our intrinsic qualities and morals. On the other hand, personality refers to our temperaments and behaviors.

The people we wish to work with and be around or stay with; the kind of people we would love to introduce and recommend to our people are those with a great and sweet personality, character and behavior. No one will ever wish to spend time or work or journey with someone with weird personality or character. The question of who determines what is weird or resentful personality and character is answered by you and me.

Each of us knows what they want in another person. Each of us can tell that another person's personality and character does not match theirs meaning that they cannot easily relate with such people. Birds of the same feather flock together. The Bible is also alive to the fact that two cannot move or walk together unless they agree (Amos 3:3). No one can force another to love them or accept them. Either you are a friend or not (doesn't mean you are an enemy). You are not a friend; you are not worth keeping.

Personality and character are built in the secret room, in a place where you find yourself alone. What you are in the secret or in privacy is ultimately who you are in public. At times, while in public, you have seen someone spit openly; throw rubbish anywhere anyhow; speak loudly on phone; beat up a child or fight a colleague; quarrel and argue over whatever issue there is; hit a cup loudly while stirring tea; fart and so on and so forth and to them, it is no problem at all.

Those on/in Whatsapp groups and forums could have seen some posts and wondered what the person posting was thinking! You would never have posted that information! That's what we are taking about. For someone, it is not a problem but to you it is a big problem.

We have been created and gifted differently. The earlier we understand that, the better. Haven't you seen young people who have good behavior compared to some adults? Thank their parents, relatives and guardians. Thank their background because that's where it all starts. I cannot emphasize enough the adage that "charity begins at home." We can capture negative behavior and tame or construct good character in the earliest stages of one's growth and development. Should we ignore it, trust me we will regret at some point in life.

It is not every time that you must talk. It is not everywhere that you must be. Sometimes, you just need to stay in your house even when you had to be somewhere. There are many times when you are in public and you have what to say but the situation at hand or environment doesn't permit you to say anything. Keep quiet. That takes emotional intelligence. You might never know what the community of two or more people you are speaking to thinks about or is planning towards you. They could just be waiting for one word from you to use it against you anywhere, leave alone in the courts of law.

By way of conclusion, do not hustle. Reflect upon what I have written in this piece. Ask yourself the following questions:

• Who am I?
• Who do I represent here or wherever I am placed? 
• Does my personality and character make people comfortable around me or does it cause people to resent and turn away from me?
• What do I gain or lose if I focus on building a good and fulfilling personality or character?
• What will I gain or lose by keeping quiet even when/where I know that I have to talk?

I could on and on but let's get to something else as you reflect upon the above.

Mugisa Abwooli Reflection #2 of 2025.